Those wacky "ex-gays" just keep showing their hand. This time around, it's "reformed" ex-gay Matt Moore (who regularly blogs about the wonders of not being gay). While he spouts the horrors of being one of "the gays" daily, he has apparently secretly been trolling for men via his phone on the gay hookup application called Grindr. For the uninitiated, Grindr is a smartphone application with basically one purpose: finding nearby gay men. It utilizes a phone's GPS, scans the network for others using the app nearby, and allows those people to "connect." Yes, you saw quotations around that for a reason. We're trying to stay at least a little classy in this entry (as hard as it is when talking about Grindr).
Moore apparently moved to New Orleans recently, and upon arrival began using the gay hookup application regularly. Zinnia Jones first broke the story, and begins by quoting Moore's more telling blog entries:
"The main thing that I struggle with the most still is pornography, but even that is changing. I don’t get the same satisfaction that I used to from it. My stomach actually turns at the site of homosexual “relations.” But I also know that if I continue to watch it and harden my heart toward the Holy Spirit’s conviction, I will start to see things again through the eyes of my sinful flesh rather than through the eyes of the Spirit."
And then she lays into him:
Not only has the Grindr profile used Moore’s name, but also his age (he was born in 1989) and even the fact that he recently moved to New Orleans. Obviously, someone is trying to make it look like Matt Moore, a noted former homosexual, is now participating in a gay dating network. Whoever is responsible for this should be ashamed of themselves for trying to besmirch the name of a devout, morally upright follower of Christ who has prevailed over his sinful temptations.
And then - after her original story went public - Matt Moore owned up to the profile and admitted he was trolling for gay men using his smartphone. She posted his confession in an update to her original story:
The grindr profile was really mine. I’ve been on it on and off for the last couple of weeks. Like I told the guy who sent you the picture, I am wrong in having been on grindr. I haven’t changed my views on homosexuality, the bible, etc. Creating a grindr profile and talking to guys on it was major disobedience on my part….disobedience to Christ. Disobedience to a loving and gracious God. Thankfully, I believe that He forgives me for this disobedience. I believe the blood of Christ covers this disobedience. And I won’t be on grindr again….ever. The pastor of my church and the church body I am a part of were informed about me being on grindr (I told them) before all of this came out, publicly.
Of course, he didn't say anything about the plethora of other hookup applications for gay men that exist, so technically he may be telling the truth. Furthermore, his admission of guilt shows that ex-gays aren't really "ex" anything; they're merely damaged souls that need a little guidance (rather than religious brainwashing that tells them the way they feel is "wrong" or "sinful"). Every legitimate psychologist has dismissed conversion therapy - as well as the notion that sexual orientation can be changed or "prayed" away. At best, these poor souls can only repress their innate urges and live miserable lives. They're the men in their fifties you see in parks trying to hook up while they're out getting milk before going home to their wife and kids. It's just...sad.
Have you ever met an "ex" gay? If so, leave me a comment or send me an email using the contact form to the left. I'd love to hear the story - especially if they've been caught relapsing. It's only by exposing the ex-gay movement for what it really is that we'll really be able to begin offering these people the help they need in accepting who they are.